How do you help someone who’s in the middle of trauma? This is a complicated question with a simple beginning. When you’re in a caregiver role, remember to care for yourself.
Everything you can do for someone else
will come from what you’re doing also for you.
And a second simple answer is, there’s a good chance you already know the answer. Or at least, you know how to be there for your friend. It might be mostly by listening. It might be very little by solving anything.
Of course you have an approach for trauma that exists in the healing practices we share here. It begins with softness, breath-body connection, and natural movement. It doesn’t heal right away. But it can create a chemical change in your body that does help, right away.
Slow down and breathe deep, enough to feel.
Believe what you feel is worth responding.
And respond, through how you move.
This isn’t about a yoga sequence or poses for trauma. Simplistic solutions don’t tend to work for long, we need something more holistic. To heal, we need to feel, we need to respond to feeling, and we need to move.
Help your friend to begin where she’s comfortable. It can be from sitting or standing, hands and knees, or lying down.
Now breathe deep, so her body and breath are connected as the same. Each inhale lifting her a bit out of where she is, giving her a little more strength, each exhale softening her, making it just a bit easier to be where she is. This kind of breathing alone is enough.
Now begin to move easily. Explore. When she finds a spot that feels good to linger, linger. When she wants to move, move. Easily and gently, always beginning in this connection between breath and body.
Maybe most of all, be there for your friend. You don’t need to do something to her, fix her, or change her. And you don’t need to teach her anything from a distance.
How you are in your own body and mind
is how we help each other the most.
When we’re carrying around extra stress and tension and moving uncomfortably, people know. When we’re at ease in our selves, people know.
You can call this advanced yoga, or tai chi, qi gong, or whatever it is you practice for your life. Or you can just call it being good at something that’s important. Whatever you call it, it’s worth practicing.
So breathe deep, get comfortable in you, and make a positive connection with yourself, so you can make a positive connection with your friend. From here, just be. If there’s something that needs doing, you’ll know.
– by Mike
About Strala Training
Strala uses yoga, tai chi, and traditional Chinese and Japanese medicine, to help people live radiantly healthy and inspiring lives. It begins with a mindset, that says our best way to get where we’re going is to feel good along the way. It also works miracles for whole health, by helping us learn to bring our entire self into everything we do, unblock energy where it’s stuck, and move more naturally and efficiently through challenge.
In our Strala Training Courses, you learn to shape your destiny on every level that counts, from your psychology, chemistry and neurology, to your chromosomes and even gene expression. The unique set of skills you develop – for connecting with yourself and others, unblocking your energy, healing what needs healing and accomplishing challenge with ease – uncovers your ability to create the life you want, and be an inspiring leader to the people around you.